Dating 2013: The Rules of the Game Have Changed!

Remember meeting that special person. Maybe you were out chilling with your boys and she her girls or you could have met on campus in the cafe or on the Quad, them frat/soror parties always brought them out!!! #College.
Then there was the getting to know them phase; going to the movies, out to dinner or maybe a few walks in the park. We did all this and still weren't a OFFICIAL couple until you met the family, at the BBQ or maybe on the front porch. Man how those were the days!
That was dating back in the day...

Let's fast forward to Dating 2013 style; my my my, how the dating scene has changed.
1. You now have the www.WorldWideWeb.com where you don't have to do anything. You no longer have to go out and meet a possible mate to Date. You can create the person you want to meet by setting certain criteria: Age, location, race, and socio-economic status. The computer age has taken the human factor out of dating in 2013. There all kind of dating sites out there where all we have to do is submit a profile and we have 10-20 possible mates on one page (all depending on your settings.) I can remember a time when the only profile I had what I was wearing when I went out! Yes, the game has changed.
Let's explore this a little further...
2. By now, we all have a smartphone, iPhone or Droid, iPad or tablet of some type. Which means we all have the Internet in the palm of our hand. Just sit and watch, how many people are:texting, on Facebook and Twitter. This now the way we communicate with one another. I don't know about y'all, but if I lose my phone I won't be able to call you and tell you because I don't know anybody's number anymore. Back in the day I knew everyone's number, hell I barely remember mine when they ask for it on anything. I say all this to say, as good as technology has become and still growing, it has been the downfall to social skills. We no longer have to call to say hello like most the females like, all I have to do is hit the send button "Hey sup" or "busy". I can reach you faster by sending a text than I can if I call. So this is where the dating scene has gone. I can sit at my computer, look for what's happening in the city tonight, then send you a text or email saying meet me @_____. I dare you to say I'm telling a lie! The computer age has taken full effect on our dating scene and from the looks of it things won't be changing. I will Skype you and we can finish this later!!!
Let's not just blame the www.com:
Ladies, yes #Ladies I'm about to call y'all out. Women have changed the dating scene too! Hmmm, where to start on this one part here...
3. Ladies you changed the game when y'all decided y'all no longer needed men; Independent Woman is what I think you've termed it. Being independent and being to hold your own is one thing. Then when you determine you no longer need men to go out: to the movies, to the clubs, and even dinner; that struck a blow to the Pride. - That's a different Blog fellas!
4. Oh yes I'm not done with y'all #women just yet... Ladies I hear you talk about how a man no longer knows how to court you. Well of course he doesn't know how when you took the ball from our court. Stay with me; we could no longer pick you up and go "Out" as we call it. Men no longer control the date. Y'all took it over. It went from going out getting to know each other to where can we take you and who you gonna impress when we get there. Think about, when you go out on these so-called dates, how much time do you sit and talk to each other? Do you want another drink or that's my jam right here don't count! If you want to be courted give the ball back and let that man find out what your interests are. On his own, if he's interested he will play your game!
The ball will still end up in your court...
Let's see if the Rules of the Game will change again!
#Relationships2013 The Series
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Ladies you tell me!

I'm going to be short and sweet with this...
Ladies/Women: What type of #Man do you want in your life? That Guy you want to settle and marry? If marriage is not your thing, then just date.
Once we get enough replies or comment we will Dive In further!
Be honest with me and most important - be honest with yourself...
Time is yours,

Duane's World: A few things you may or may not know about ME!

1. How I would describe IamDuaneB in 3 words:
Opinionated - Isn't this the reason I have this #Blog! I have something to say about any and everything. Once upon while growing up I would keep all my thoughts and comments to myself. Now a days, if I have a thought or something to say, you best believe somebody is going to hear about it. Good or bad I have to say what's on my mind!
Fun - I like to have and enjoy whatever it is I do. Be it: work or play I find if I enjoy what I'm doing I am more focused and concentrated on the task at hand and I tend to get better results in the end. I joke and kid around to lighten the load and to make people know we don't have to take things and life so serious. If I can't enjoy what I do, am doing, why do it... Turn the 😠frown 😃upside down!
Learner - Yes this one will take a little explaining. Yes I went to college, didn't graduate, yet still feel Im learning and growing as a person, as a man at 41y/o. I take time to listen and understand what people say. I truly believe in the saying, "You learn something new everyday."
Just because I don't hold certain letters behind my name, B.A. M.B.A. Ph.D, doesn't mean I'm not learned. By the way classes start in April (I'm going after those letters). You live and you learn and that's what I'm doing!

2. I'm a #Sports fan thru and thru. I will start of by saying I'm a #Philly 4 for 4. Those who don't know, I like the: @Eagles, @Sixers, @Phillies and @Flyers! Get it, 4 for 4! It doesn't just stop there. I'm a #Big5 fan as well, it's a #Philadelphia #Hoops #Basketball thing like the cheesesteak and water ice!
Growing up into @IamDuaneB, there were sports rules to #Follow set by Pops:
We don't root for the following teams: #NotreDame Football, #BostonCeltics or the hated rival #DallasCowboys - you know the chant, Dallas sucks Dallas sucks!
My love for sports has grown from the early years in life. A continuing tradition we have is #PennRelays. We take this yearly Mecca to the @UPenn every year in April since I was about 10. Rain or shine we are there watching @USATrack_Field #USAvstheWorld. We have our tickets for Fri & Sat already. The tradition continues!!!

3. My friends are #Friends in every sense of the word! Let me start off by saying my friends are truly friends that I can say are from the cradle to the grave! I have literally known most of them since the Babysitter... Yeah we're that old. I'm 41 and they consider me the baby of the bunch! The I didn't meet at the baby sitter I met either in kindergarten or 1st grade. Yes I've developed other friendships over the years 20+ (from college -S/O to my ADP '89, it's @WestChesterUniv thing). Trust me there is a circle if friends and a circle of acquaintances. There is a difference!

4. Women - I will let this be the last cause this will take a lot out of me and I don't think I will have anything left to say... Sike, just having fun ⏫⏫⏫(see above comment section 1)⏫⏫⏫.
I love y'all to death, why shouldn't I, you make the world go around!
Now the choices I made in life with some of the women I chose, (nobody else's choice, although moms gave her strong opinion) has been mine. There have been good ones and horrible women to cross into my circle. Yet from each and every one I have Learned something and was able to form a list of qualities that I now require from that Woman I choose to be with for life!
No, I'm not gonna tell you what they are, you just need to show me that you possess those qualities... Step up to the plate and join my #Relationships2013 Series to further investigate what makes me tick in the world of Men/Women relationships!

5. Yes ladies yes; I am a "Mommas Boy." Any questions talk to Mom!

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#Relationships2013 The Series Begins

Just sitting back, looking and listening to: friends, family, acquaintances & even those I don't know, I've come to the conclusion that there are many definitions when it comes to being in a "relationship!"
Many of my younger friends, 30 under crew, a relationship exists for self gratification. What can "I" get out of it. I've heard it said...we can do this but I don't want you catching feelings. One of my favorites is... I'm not looking for anything serious right now! This one is good too...he/she are not my boyfriend/girlfriend they're just my homie! These terms/ sayings are used in reference to relationships; but why? Is it because you want to experience being in a relationship without having to commit to someone? You know, the factor of having company around; someone to go out with and somewhere to go when you're bored. Hell for them just to be a friend they're always around, just chilling. Something goes wrong, they are the first person you're calling up to tell them what happened. Sounds like a relationship to me! As they say, y'all have truly changed the game in this relationship thing!
Then we have my people, 35 to 45. Hell we're older, smarter, and more experienced than the 'youngins'. We've been there and done that already! I'm not too sure on where to stand on this one. We have a totally different set of issues going on over here. Most times we have kids involved, ex's or just several open ended situations. Yes, I'm still talking relationships, stay with me.
Excluding the married folks (y'all get a pass right now), people in my crew 35-45, most have so many reasons or excuses for their relationships. You know what I'm talking about, we're not married because she/he is not ready to commit or they just don't have their shit together. Yet they have a house, a child and have been together for 25 years now. Isn't that the prime example of a RELATIONSHIP, I thought it was.
These are just a few of the examples that has lead to my questioning of what a relationship is in today's society.
All in all, I have faith that I really do understand what the word relationship means when it comes to: seeing people, dating and marriage. I give that credit to my parents who earlier this year celebrated 41 years! They have showed me the good and the not so good of relationships.
This will be part of an on going series I want to start: #Relationships2013