Remember meeting that special person. Maybe you were out chilling with your boys and she her girls or you could have met on campus in the cafe or on the Quad, them frat/soror parties always brought them out!!! #College.
Then there was the getting to know them phase; going to the movies, out to dinner or maybe a few walks in the park. We did all this and still weren't a OFFICIAL couple until you met the family, at the BBQ or maybe on the front porch. Man how those were the days!
That was dating back in the day...
Let's fast forward to Dating 2013 style; my my my, how the dating scene has changed.
1. You now have the www.WorldWideWeb.com where you don't have to do anything. You no longer have to go out and meet a possible mate to Date. You can create the person you want to meet by setting certain criteria: Age, location, race, and socio-economic status. The computer age has taken the human factor out of dating in 2013. There all kind of dating sites out there where all we have to do is submit a profile and we have 10-20 possible mates on one page (all depending on your settings.) I can remember a time when the only profile I had what I was wearing when I went out! Yes, the game has changed.
Let's explore this a little further...
2. By now, we all have a smartphone, iPhone or Droid, iPad or tablet of some type. Which means we all have the Internet in the palm of our hand. Just sit and watch, how many people are:texting, on Facebook and Twitter. This now the way we communicate with one another. I don't know about y'all, but if I lose my phone I won't be able to call you and tell you because I don't know anybody's number anymore. Back in the day I knew everyone's number, hell I barely remember mine when they ask for it on anything. I say all this to say, as good as technology has become and still growing, it has been the downfall to social skills. We no longer have to call to say hello like most the females like, all I have to do is hit the send button "Hey sup" or "busy". I can reach you faster by sending a text than I can if I call. So this is where the dating scene has gone. I can sit at my computer, look for what's happening in the city tonight, then send you a text or email saying meet me @_____. I dare you to say I'm telling a lie! The computer age has taken full effect on our dating scene and from the looks of it things won't be changing. I will Skype you and we can finish this later!!!
Let's not just blame the www.com:
Ladies, yes #Ladies I'm about to call y'all out. Women have changed the dating scene too! Hmmm, where to start on this one part here...
3. Ladies you changed the game when y'all decided y'all no longer needed men; Independent Woman is what I think you've termed it. Being independent and being to hold your own is one thing. Then when you determine you no longer need men to go out: to the movies, to the clubs, and even dinner; that struck a blow to the Pride. - That's a different Blog fellas!
4. Oh yes I'm not done with y'all #women just yet... Ladies I hear you talk about how a man no longer knows how to court you. Well of course he doesn't know how when you took the ball from our court. Stay with me; we could no longer pick you up and go "Out" as we call it. Men no longer control the date. Y'all took it over. It went from going out getting to know each other to where can we take you and who you gonna impress when we get there. Think about, when you go out on these so-called dates, how much time do you sit and talk to each other? Do you want another drink or that's my jam right here don't count! If you want to be courted give the ball back and let that man find out what your interests are. On his own, if he's interested he will play your game!
The ball will still end up in your court...
Let's see if the Rules of the Game will change again!
#Relationships2013 The Series
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