3 Reasons why you can't find 'A Good Man'

Yes I'm back with a most talked about topic within this Male/Female Relationship Series: 'A Good Man - Myth or Reality'. I'm writing this from the Male perspective so ladies don't get mad at what you might read, because yes, shots are going to be fired! As stated I'm going to approach this from the Point of View (POV) to let you see that A Good Man still exist in this world but you may not be finding him simply because he's just avoiding you. First shot fired! Below I will list a few reasons why you may not have met that Good Man just yet; oh there's still time to find us...
1. Communicate: Ladies you will need to stop playing the guessing games. Talk to us. Any Good Man will need/want/desire/require you to communicate with him. Those 90s-00s "well he should already know" times are over. Here's a clue, We Don't Know...
We don't know what you are thinking. We don't know what you want to do. Unless you tell us, we don't know what you like. In order to make these things happen, you simply need to tell us, communicate. Trust me, there nothing wrong with telling your man, husband, boyfriend the things you like, the things you want to do, and what's on your mind. It's your mind, how, the hell am I supposed to know what's going inside of your head? I got my own mental issues to deal with.
In order to grow together, you will need to talk that man.
2. Stop comparing: The Good Man that you are seeking to be in your life is not going to come around if you keep living in an holding onto past relationship failures. Your prospective new relationship needs to be just that NEW. I will tell you this, no Good Man wants to be with a woman who's going to keep dwelling on what happened in her last relationship. Your good man is not sitting around playing XBox or Playstation all day in his wife beater. He's not, going to spending your money that you work hard to make while he lets his go to waste on other women and drinking. What you had was a bad imitation of a Man. Notice I didn't say good man, just a man. No good wants to be compared to this because this below his standard. He is not going to put himself through the constant questioning and accusations based off of what some other clown has done to you. A Good Man does not feel the need to have to prove himself to you in anyway shape or form. Why should he have to; he goes to work everyday (sometimes on his day off) to provide for his family, he protects those he cares about. He will do what needs to be done to make sure he has a happy home. A man wants to build with his woman, not fix his woman!
3. Ms. Independent: As I have spoken in this one before, being Independent is just as bad as a mans Pride. Ok, you don't need a man to pay ya bill$. You don't need a man to provide for you because you have your own job. No you didn't make that baby by yourself but your damn sure raising that baby by yourself; you don't need no man. Hell, it's a few of y'all out here that don't even need a man for sex anymore. This will damn keep that Good Man away! Shit, most times it will send him running to the arms of another. Damn, not only do we have to compete with other men, we now have to compete with you and other women... WTF! All in all, Ms. Independent has taken over the role of being the man for herself and no longer let's a man be a man.
These are just 3 reasons as to why I think some of you have not found yourself - "A Good Man!"

We're Men: You Know How We Do...

They're MEN, that's what they do. He's just being a MAN. Did you really expect him to do something different. All phrases that are commonly used by women to describe a MANs behavior or actions. Of course there are many more that I could have gone with; I just decided to stop here with these. (Ladies feel free to post your phrase below when you post your replies!). All that being said, you know your man or guy that's in your life; you know how he/ we will react in certain situations and settings. We're men! Lets analyze why we do what we do...
Don't be afraid brothers I'm not going deep into our men's handbook, I won't break the CODE!
Ladies, it's not that deep or complicated as to why we do what we do. Yes I'm taking it there: Women! Women you are the root cause of us MEN acting how we act. Think about...
Scenario 1:
Summer Day nice out and y'all women got them sexy ass Sundress's on.
Here you come walking down the street looking good, better yet smelling all good. Are we not supposed to look? I mean really; you probably spent 2 hours in the house getting yourself all prepped to make your appearance. Hair, nails, perfume/body spray, and yes picking out the perfect outfit for the day. You women know what your mission is before you step out the door: Turn Heads! So if that's the mission all us men are going to do is oblige your mission and LOOK at that ass as you walk by. I mean this why you spent all that in the mirror trying to figure out, "does this look right???" So remember when you walk down the street, we're gonna look, - that's what we do! It's Spring again... Sundress's on deck!
Scenario 2:
Him - sitting down watching the game throwing a few back...
Her - Talking/asking questions (Ladies insert question or topic here _____?)
Real talk, we're not listening. We will agree, say yes, nod, give you a very general "Ok babe, yeah you're right. We won't even know what we agreed to or probably didn't even know what was said until next week sometime when you asking us why we didn't what we said we was gonna do. What we do know is, the game is on; we don't want to be bothered and we will do whatever it takes for y'all to leave us the hell alone! Really, you had to ask me that shit right here, right now??? That could have waited another half hour. So on the following Tuesday when you're asking us why we're not doing what we said we would do on Saturday when the game was on: we were just trying to see the game and have a drink - that's what we do! It's March MarchMadness ain't it? Don't ask me to do shit for the next 2 weeks... IJS Go TU Go TU!

These were just 2 examples of why we do what we do. I told the brothers I wasn't gonna to deep in the Men's Handbook and I didn't, yet I got my point across. Matter of fact , I'm stopping here because there is another game on as I compose this blog. I got to go get my drink and post up - You Know How We Do! Rum/Coke on deck...